Birthday socks at rest.
This of course means it’s time for me to back-off and let mom function on her own. The perspective of being nearly 2000 miles away helps force me into this reality .
Mom continues to be fueled with such strong determination and I don’t know how I could make it with out realizing what a resource this is for both of us. We come from a family motto of “What can you do but go on?” and that’s what she does with the best of spirits. I’m still baffled by her strength.
Last view of the glowing tree in the parking lot.
Now we will talk on the phone daily and friends and neighbors will rally around her as we move through the next month. Tomorrow will be Sunday with some new changes and challenges for her. She will be getting a lot more personal care and at this point she see it as a big interruption that I am throwing at her. She’s mad and insists that it is not necessary. Angry that she has to go along with the plan. I tell her that I appreciate her resistance because it is coming from a place of her own strength. I know her strength is building but this decision is actually more for me than for her. I have to feel comfortable about her well-being and safety when she is alone. Now she will have a light evening meal delivered and a caretaker will arrive a 5 and stay with her until 8. Who know what direction this will go!